I hope you are all having a lovely May so far we are back with another guest post. This time round we have a slightly more sensitive topic but an important one none the less.
We hope that we experience nothing but good moments with our friends. But, alas, that’s sometimes just not possible. If we’re friends with someone for long enough, then eventually, we’ll need to support them when they go through something bad. Take grief, for example. You may know your friend as a fun-loving character, but when they go through grief, they’ll need you to dig deep and be there for them. If you’ve never been in this position before, then it can be difficult to know what to do. In this blog, we’ll look at just a few actions that’ll be sure to help them — and which will most definitely make you a good friend.
The most basic thing you can do is also one of the most effective. When someone goes through the grieving process, they feel as if the world has opened up beneath them. They’re in a hole. Through the course of being there for them, you can show that while they may be in a hole, they’re not there alone. It can be profoundly comforting to know that there are people around you that care about your wellbeing. By being a presence, that’s just the comfort that you’ll be providing.
One of the mistakes that people tend to make when trying to help someone through grief is avoiding bringing up the name of the person who has passed away. You can see why people do this, but it’s usually not the best approach. The person who has lost someone wants to talk about their loved one. It helps with the transition and assists the grieving process. Of course, if the person is obviously not enjoying the conversation, then don’t continue. But more often than not, you’ll find that they are highly willing to talk about the person they’ve lost.
Help With Arrangements
A person dealing with grief isn’t just going through an emotional experience. They’re also going through a logistical experience. If they’ve never dealt with death before, then it can be a challenge to make sure that everything is being taken care of exactly as it should. While there will be some things that they have to handle alone, you can still be helpful. For instance, you could research everything that you have to do or look up the details of a funeral service company like Compassionate Funerals and pass them on. Again, in many cases helping with these things is beneficial just because it lets them know that they’re not going through it alone.
Stay in Contact
At some point, the shock of the death will pass. Normal life will begin to resume. However, for your friend, normal life won’t be back entirely — in fact, things may never be the same again. Be sure to be a presence in their life as they navigate the immediate aftermath of the death, especially in the 6 – 12 month period after. Being supportive and providing an ear and shoulder to cry on can be extremely beneficial.
What is your advice for supporting a friend?